Late To The Party!

I love blog parties but I’m woefully late to this one hosted by the Peaceful Housewife – I hope late is better than never!

If you aren’t familiar with a blog party it is when like-minded bloggers have a posting/commenting blitz.  It is a great way to “meet” other bloggers/mamas and find great new reads.  The blog party is specifically a Natural Parenting Blog Party so you’ll find tons of great blogs in the list here (scroll to bottom).  The party goes on until April 30th so there is still time to join the fun!

Peaceful Housewife gave us a list of questions to get to know each other and I think that is a fabulous way to start so here goes.

How many children do you have, and how old are they?

I have 3 (3!) children: Aellyn is 26 months old and my twin boys, Asher and Boston, are 8 weeks old (1 week adjusted).  I say “3!” because it took us 10 years and much heartache journeying through infertility before getting our miracle little girl.  We could never have dreamed of being successful with a second child and to get twins! – it is just truly miraculous.

Do you have a partner, or are you a single parent?

My husband of 12 years, Pete, is a stay-at-home-dad although we hope to be switching roles in the next year.

What are your “hot button” parenting issues?

I’m passionate about many of the topics I write about – vaccines, breastfeeding, co-sleeping in particular.  But, my “hot button” meaning the one I’d go to war far is Gentle Discipline.  I don’t believe that children are for hitting under ANY circumstances regardless of how it is couched in euphemisms like “swat.”  There is NO NEED to hit children to discipline them so why would you?  I hosted the Carnival of Gentle Discipline to look at the multitude of alternatives that don’t require physical harm/intimidation/coercion and ACTUALLY WORK BETTER!

If you practice gentle parenting you can use this beautiful badge featuring the art of Erika Hastings at Mud Spice:
Gentle Parent - art by Erika Hastings at http://mudspice.wordpress.com/

<center><a href=”https://babydustdiaries.files.wordpress.com/2011/04/natural-parenting-blog-party.png2010/04/what-is-gentle-discipline/&#8221; title=”Carnival of Gentle Discipline”><img src=”http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2149/4508083303_5d00dcce0f_o.jpg&#8221; width=”120″ height=”120″ alt=”Gentle Parent – art by Erika Hastings at http://mudspice.wordpress.com/&#8221; /></a></center>And coming in June the second annual Carnival of Gentle Discipline! Mark your calendars for June 20-24, 2011 and stay tuned for more information!

I’m also passionate about normalizing breastfeeding through Nursing in Public and I am co-founder of NursingFreedom.org

Have you made any parenting choices that you didn’t think you would make before you were a parent, i.e. cloth diapering a child when you had previously thought it was disgusting?

This is a hard one because, as an infertile, I didn’t think overly about specific parenting issues because it made my heart ache.  However, I had never questioned vaccines until I became pregnant with my daughter (and thus switched from obsessively researching IVF to obsessively researching parenting topics).

Is there one book or person in particular that’s heavily influenced your parenting choices?

My favorite parenting book, which I recently reviewed, is [amazon_link id=”0553067508″ target=”_blank” ]Becoming the Parent You Want To Be: A Sourcebook of Strategies for the First Five Years[/amazon_link].  I’m a librarian in my non-mommy hours (?) so I read tons of books every year and have decided this year (which starts my 6th year of blogging here at Baby Dust Diaries!) to start doing more book reviews so stay tuned!  My next two reviews will be:

[amazon_image id=”075663993X” link=”true” target=”_blank” size=”medium” ]The Science of Parenting[/amazon_image]

[amazon_image id=”0380811960″ link=”true” target=”_blank” size=”medium” ]How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk[/amazon_image]

If you had to describe each of your children using only one word, what word would you use?

Aellyn = Charming.  Boston = Needy.  Asher = Demanding.  Sorry those sound negative but I don’t mean it that way.  Infants are supposed to be needy and demanding but it is so cute how different they are.  Boston will mewl to be held while Asher will wail to bring down the rafters.

Is there one parenting decision that you regret more than others and wish you could change?

I can’t think of anything.  I guess I regret that I’ll never have a waterbirth but my births were exactly what they needed to be.  Read Aellyn’s Birth Story and Asher and Boston’s Birth Story.

Is there an area of your parenting you wish you were better at?

Gentle Discipline.  Just because I’m a huge advocate of it doesn’t mean it is easy.  Parenting can be frustrating and living in a society that normalizes control and coercion of children it is hard to think of alternatives at a moment’s notice.  Not spanking is easy.  It is harder to be non-punitive (no time outs or manipulation) in the heat of the moment.  It is an ongoing work in progress!

Now for the fun questions – is there one particular food or type of food that you could eat every day?

Peanut Butter.

Vanilla ice cream or chocolate?

Chocolate!

What’s your guilty pleasure?

I read romance novels!  Super trashy ones.  lol.

If you could be part of any television show, which show would it be?

Something on HGTV!  We no longer have cable and this is what I miss the most!!

The Peaceful Housewife

Welcome to my blog!  I’m looking forward to meeting new blog moms during the party!

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7 thoughts on “Late To The Party!

  1. Lovely blog! Glad I visited; I’ll have to return to read more about your journey with Gentle Discipline. Before our son was born, I was all into reading parenting books, but haven’t made time to research worthy ones since then, let along actually read them. The one I did start reading is “Brain Rules for Babies,” which I now recommend for all newlyweds planning for children and expectant parents.

    Anyhow, thanks for sharing and stopping over to my site. I haven’t been blogging in this way for even a year yet so it’s good to start meetingama bloggers who have similar parenting passions.

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  2. Wonderful! So nice to “meet” you! And I agree about how it’s harder to be non-punitive in the heat of the moment! Especially while they’re really young! And don’t you think too that each child has such different ways of responding to discipline that it become pretty asinine to try and use a cookie cutter method to begin with! It’s really wonderful to find other parents using gentle parenting! We’re finding that it is such a hot button topic that we have not stayed in contact with some friends because of the huge difference (at least it feels that way to me) in our parenting styles. Real example: no I do not agree that you did the right thing in locking your 20 month old in her room so that she wouldn’t come into yours, because you needed to get some sleep. I would also like some sleep!! And I don’t really understand the “to each his own” theory… because what if there was is just really… awful?!

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  3. Hello Paige…

    Thanks so much for your comment on my blog…I’m looking forward browsing more of your site.

    I can’t imagine five weeks in the NICU…four days was definitely more than enough for us! How early were your little boys (I love their names too! :))? And I can definitely relate to the breastfeeding difficulties post-NICU…we had a lot of issues in the beginning and it must be even harder with twins. I hope things get better for you soon… 🙂

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  4. Hi! Thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment. 🙂 I tried using that widget you posted, but it won’t work for some reason… Hmmmm… It just says the word “gentle” with a link…

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