Yesterday my mom and sister and I baked Christmas cookies! I absolutely LOVE Christmas and I think baking cookies is a warm hug of christmas spirit! We made mexican wedding cookies (snowballs), peanut butter blossoms, butter cookies, and my sister’s famous chocolate chip cookies. It was a blast and made much easier with the awesometastic stand mixer mom and dad got me for christmas last year. We’ve decided this year to have a christmas brunch and then just graze on cookies, summer sausage, cheese logs, and truffles for the rest of the day instead of making a dinner. I’m going to try a sausage brunch casserole this year! I love to cook and bake when I can be creative. “Making dinner” isn’t near as fun as Cooking, kwim?
Ok, cigarettes. I have to admit I’m posting this conundrum in part to get peoples’ opinions but also because I know my cousin (Hi, CJ!) reads this blog and I’m hoping she can understand my reasoning and pass it on to the family. I grew up in a smoke filled house. My dad smoked like 2 packs a day. Everyone I knew smoked cigarettes, we got “smoking section” at restaurants and, besides being in school, I was generally surrounded by cigarette smoke. I understand that lots of people grew up this way and we all survived, right? So this leaves people with little compassion sometimes for people who don’t want to be around second hand smoke. But think about how things are these days. There is no such thing as smoking sections and restaurants, there aren’t smoking sections at work anymore. Even my friends that smoke (tsk tsk) don’t do it in the house. If you don’t smoke these days the closest you get to second hand smoke is that smelly coworker that thinks the perfume is masking the stink (dude, it is SO not).
Second hand smoke definitely gives me a contact headache. Even if no one is smoking in a “smoking” house the smell is so thick that a headache is an assurance. My husband’s father died of lung cancer before he was 40. There is alot of other types of cancer in DH’s family and he is rightly feeling that he is “high risk” and wanting to avoid carcinogens. I have always just “handled” the smoke since it is only a few times a year at family functions. Then we got pregnant. Second hand smoke is very bad for a fetus obviously. And I certainly don’t want it in my newborn’s lungs. But, do I want it anymore in my 3 or 4 year old’s lungs? Probably not.
So here is my problem. Some of my family get togethers are going to be smoking events (luckily we rent a hall for Thanksgiving and have lots of outdoor activities in the summer). One of those is Christmas Eve. I LOVE christmas eve. I love to see all my cousins and aunts and uncles! But I really just can’t justify exposing my baby to the second hand smoke. And I KNOW how DH feels about it. He feels absolutely no way! I don’t have any wind in my sails to argue with him. I personally miss my family and I worry about my daughter not getting to participate in christmas eve activities too. 😦 But I have to make a decision and we really can’t justify that exposure to her nor am I going to argue with my husband about his very real fear of cancer. And, of course, I don’t expect anyone else to change their plans for my (minority) opinion. We used to have christmas eve out at a restaurant and that was great. I could also offer my house next year, which I’m thinking about. Of course, they’ll know why I’m doing it and probably won’t be happy. I asked my parents to be honest with why I’m not there. I don’t really want to lie about it. But I don’t want anyone to think I’m doing it in a snotty way either. I’m not trying to be “high and mighty” – it is just a personal decision not to be around second hand smoke. We have friends whose homes we don’t go to either. We go out with them but not to their house.
I guess that’s the story. I just want my family to know that I miss them a christmas and my decision is not a comment on their choices.