Illness or elective?

Insurance coverage for IF treatments can be minimal or non-existent in some areas of our country. This is a large issue and I recommend visiting to learn more. The basic question comes down to illness or elective. Insurance companies see having a child as an elective procedure – like a face lift. They do not see it as a malfunction of a normal human body. It can be frustrating to see better coverage for erectile dysfunction than for the inability to produce a new human life. The thing that makes this more painful is that there are proven and very successful treatments for IF. Lacking the money to participate in treatment leaves some with the dull ache of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel but being unable to reach it. Beyond this, studies have shown that being diagnosed with IF has a similar psychological response to recieving a cancer diagnosis.

The psychological impact of infertility: a comparison with patients with other medical conditions

1993 J Psychosom Obstet Gynaecol 14 Suppl;45-52

Domar, A. D., Zuttermeister, P. C., and Friedman, R.

This poster put it succinctly on the RESOLVE bulletin board recently:

Growing up, from even before we started getting AF, motherhood was in our play time – in our toys – its always been a part of our lives. AF shows up, and we learn that we have AF so we can have babies. You got married – you had a baby. No one ever told us that we would have HSGs, HSCs, endometrial biopsies, laporoscopies, gyn oncology, sperm analysis, regular internal ultrsounds, E2 levels, miscarriages and loss, donor sperm, donar eggs – we never knew what we were in for.

IF is harsh – its harsh on our bodies, its harsh on our souls – its harsh on our marriages. We wonder how we got here – we wonder what we are supposed to get out of all of this – how does IF and loss fit into the bigger picture of our lives – our goals. IF is full of ‘what ifs’, added to the normal what ifs of life… its harsh.